Just do not do it.
(Remember those awesome Nike ads? They were so on to something!)
Seriously. I discovered this technique by accident this last week. I always do laundry on Saturdays and Sundays. The folding got done on Tuesdays and Thursdays when I wasn't working (I used to work Monday, Wednesday, and Friday). Well, now my laundry folding days are missing. However, what has happened is that when we need something, we just pull it out of the laundry basket!!! I have had no complaints! It has been brilliant.
Surprisingly, the topic of laundry folding came up at dinner last night. I asked a friend, "How do you find time to fold the laundry?" amazed that this brilliant woman who works at a high intensity full-time job (the same job her husband has, by the way) musters the energy and finds the time to do this. "I fold while my husband and I watch TV on Sunday night." Now, since I really like these people, I asked no further questions. Not really into starting a riot at someone's house. But I REALLY want to know : does your husband help you??? Sadly, I am biased towards "no" based on my own experience in the past and other female comrades. (Hopefully, you-know-who-you-are-from-dinner-last-night do help your awesome wife fold the seven loads she does).
I bring this up because just on Thursday I was having a conversation with a co-worker, another impressively smart woman, and she mentioned ,"My husband has no clue about what it takes to run the house. I have totally enabled him to be naive."
OK ladies: here's the deal. You know how toddlers whine when you are trying to get them to cooperate with something that they don't want to do? Have you noticed a similarity between toddlers and husbands (some, not all! don't yell at me if yours is proactive!) ? So, with a toddler, if you respond to their tantrums and give them the cookie they want, the next time they want a cookie...guess what? Tantrum, right? If your loved one responds with a whine, do not enable them by just doing it yourself! Remember that human behavior is simple: you have to do things repeatedly to get it right. This applies both to your asking for help and your loved ones' response to giving you help.
Before I adopted my new "Just do not do it" technique to laundry folding, I asked my husband for help. He said ,"Yes."